Recently within the last couple of years I went through a major transition and transformation. I went from being married to being a single mom. I went from working to pay for trips to Europe and Mexico and frequent fancy nights out to working to pay for the mortgage. I find myself in a place where I feel things closer to the bone and with my feet more grounded out of necessity rather than fluff. Being a coach I have always used the tool of visualizing to get me to where I want to be however I never visualized this. It has been very humbling.
In today's new age circles and Facebook forums you hear one line quotes that range from "Follow your bliss" to "Manifest your dreams" to "Be present" usually all written in some loopy script. These one liners can be super helpful reminders for some, and as a disclaimer I often use homemade mantras for myself and as a tool with clients to keep the arrows pointed towards true intentions. However there is this idea that if you think abundantly you will be abundant or if you think positive thoughts than all will be well and I want to call bullshit on that. It takes more than that. It takes the courage to look at oneself and to feel pain and to go through it in order to get to that more spacious side of acceptance and peace.
I believe Jung said, "We have both dark and light within us. It's the dance between them that makes life worth living. Too much light creates deep and dark shadows... One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of Light, but by making the darkness conscious... Shadow work is the path of the heart warrior."
I want to redefine abundance for myself as a way of knowing what I am aiming for as I continue on this path of self reliance and realization. Abundance isn't just a hot word that when said will attract cartoon money signs and luxury into my life. Abundance is a state of being graceful in how I choose to see and live my life. I can be in a scarce place without succumbing to poverty mentality. I can be getting by and feel a richness residing at the same time. There has been such a wealth of growing during this "harder" time. Such a reserve of empathy and love and anchoring into my spiritual world. I know one day that the trips will come back and the fancy nights out will repeat. I also know that the way in which I hold my heart today is what most matters. Abundance to me today is defined by the way I hold my heart and the way I hold your heart; with infinite compassion and space to blossom.